Being involved in service makes me feel worthwhile.
At thirty days clean, some members will tell us that what we can do best is listen.
Service is something that is our unique gift—something that no one can take away from us. We give, –Just For Today | More…

There is one thing more than anything else that will defeat us in our recovery;
This is an attitude of indifference or intolerance toward spiritual principles.
We didn’t necessarily accept every single spiritual idea we heard.
But we started thinking, if these principles had worked for others, just maybe they’d work for us, too. For a beginning, that willingness was enough. –Just For Today | More…

Think only about what is holy. Empty your mind
If we let our minds wander, we will come up with a lot of junk.
We cannot stop thinking, but we can choose what to think about.
The Elders say we move towards what we think about.
That’s why they say, ‘Think about what is holy, and think about good’. –Elders Meditations | More…

Abandoning the old attitude of “all or nothing” we learn to settle for very gradual progress, punctuated occasionally by very heavy setbacks. –A Day at a Time | More…

In time, we can relax and enjoy the atmosphere of recovery.
We learn to lighten up in recovery.
We laugh at the absurdity of our addiction.
Our meetings—those rooms filled with the lively, happy sounds of percolating coffee, clattering chairs, and laughing addicts—are the gathering places where we first welcome our newcomers and let them know that, yes, we’re having fun now. –Just For Today | More…

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Every person needs to conscientiously think about how they respect the Earth.
Do we dump our garbage out of the car? Do we poison the water? Do we poison the air?
Am I taking on the responsibility of being a caretaker of the Earth?    –Elders Meditations | More…

Slow down or stop – depending on how fast you’re going.
Look – see where you are, whom you’re with, what you’re doing.
Give whatever you’re doing your attention.
Listen – as much as possible, quell your anxiety, cease your mental chatter, and just listen to nature, to other people, to God, and to yourself. –52 Weeks of Conscious Contact/Melody Beattie | More…

The most spiritual thing you can do is to help someone
It is the way out of the prison of self, and it always sets our spirits free. –Wisdom of the Rooms | More…

It is our experience as alcoholics that makes us of unique value…
We can approach sufferers as no one else can. –“A United Message of Recovery,” Decatur, Georgia, May 1994/AA Grapevine

When we are centered on our spiritual path, we can respond to our fears with peace.  And by living peaceably ourselves, we invite a spirit of peace to enter our world.  We can affect positive change by doing our best to practice the principles of our program. –Just For Today | More…

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All AA progress can be reckoned in terms of just two words: humility and responsibility. –Bill W., January 1966, “The Guidance of AA’s World Affairs”/The Language of the Heart

If every day is an awakening, you will never grow old.
You will just keep growing. -Gail Sheehy
Native Spirituality is full of life. When we seek it we become alive.
If we look outside ourselves, we will not find life; if we look inside, we will find life.
Anytime we choose to change our lives, we only need to look inside. –Elders Meditations | More…

To keep growing and to keep building character, we need to rehearse kindness, patience, and love.
We need to practice awareness of our Higher Power in our lives –Day by Day | More…

Good things increase in direct proportion to my willingness to become teachable. –AA Grapevine

We have learned that it is okay to not know all the answers For then we are teachable and can learn to live our new life successfully. As recovering addicts and as human beings, we have much to learn.  Other addicts—and other humans—have much to teach us about what works and what doesn’t.  As long as we remain teachable, we can take advantage of the experience of others. –Just For Today | More…

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Hello, I am Your Disease

I hate meetings.
I hate your higher power.
I hate anyone who has a program.

To all who come in contact with me,
I wish you suffering and death.

Allow me to introduce myself…
I am the disease of addiction.
Alcoholism, drugs and eating disorders.
I am cunning, baffling and powerful. That’s me!

I’ve killed millions and enjoyed doing it.
I love to catch you by surprise.
I love pretending I’m your friend and lover.
I’ve given you comfort.
Wasn’t I there when you were lonely?
When you wanted to die, didn’t you call on me?

I love to make you hurt.
I love to make you cry. Better yet…
I love it when I make you so numb,
You can’t hurt and you can’t cry.
You feel nothing at all.

I give you instant gratification.
All I ask for in return is long term suffering.
I’ve always been there for you.

When things were going right, you invited me back.
You said you didn’t deserve to be happy.
I agreed with you.
Together we were able to destroy your life.

People don’t take me seriously.
They take strokes seriously.
They take heart attacks seriously.
Even diabetes, they take seriously.
Yet, without my help, these things wouldn’t be possible.

I’m such a hated disease, yet I don’t come uninvited.
You choose to have me.
Many have chosen me, instead of love and peace.

I hate all of you who work a 12 step program.
Your program, your meetings, and your higher power weaken me.
I can’t function in the manner I am accustomed to.

I am your disease.
For now I must lie here quietly.
You don’t see me, but I’m growing more powerful every day.

When you settle for mere existence, I thrive.
When you feel fully alive, I weaken.
But I’m always here waiting for you.

Until we meet again,
I wish you continued suffering and death.
Author Unknown –In The Sunlight | More…

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(Definition: a deterioration in someone’s state of health after a temporary improvement.)

The Top 14 Symptoms of A Relapse

1. Exhaustion: Becoming overly tired – heads up, workaholics.

2. Dishonesty: Little lies and deceits – making excuses.

3. Impatience: Things do not happen fast enough – others not doing what they should. Road rage and driving dangerously are signs also.

4. Argumentativeness: Arguing ridiculous points of view – looking for an excuse to drink, use drugs, gamble, or other “acting-out” addictions.

5. Depression: Unreasonable despair – Problems not being talked out.

6. Frustration: At people and things that may not be going your way.

7. Self-pity: Why do these things only happen to me? Why am I like I am? (Hint: Even if you do know why you are as you are – it does not change anything. You have to make changes.)

8. Over-Confident: Thinking you have got-it-made – you no longer fear your addiction – and you take risks getting involved with people, places, and things that you know are high risk.

9. Complacency: Thinking everything is ok, and “forgetting” about past negative consequences. Cruising on yesterday’s recovery.

10. Expecting too much from others: “I have changed, why hasn’t everyone else started to trust me, reward me, etc…”

11. Abuse of Over The Counter Medicines: Rather than your “drug of choice” or mood altering substances.

12. Personal expectations set too high: Setting goals that are unattainable, or that take time and effort to obtain and not willing to be patient and put in the hard work. “Happiness is not having what you want, but wanting what you have.”

13. Selective Memory: Forgetting what you were like when you were using, abusing or deep into your addiction. Learn to be grateful each day, even if the world seems a little less colorful to you – it will get better.

14. Not rewarding yourself in healthy ways: Still thinking that substance use is a reward, or something that you deserve. Most people, who have gotten to the point where their substance use could be considered abuse, or that they were or are addicted or dependent, cannot really go back to controlled use. Like it or not, for many it is a fact of life. So, to deal with thinking a drink or using a drug is a good thing – play the tape to the end and remember where it got you, and it started out by using just once. Stop the process before it gets started. Do not take chances, and remind yourself that there are so many better rewards in life when you remain clean and sober! ~By Bruce “The Gazette Guy” Huberman

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When we used, we usually had an open mind when it came to finding ways and means to get more drugs.
If we can apply this same principle of open-mindedness to our recovery, we may surprise ourselves by how easily we begin to grasp the program.  Our best thinking, it is often said, got us into the rooms of Narcotics Anonymous.
If we are willing to go to any lengths, follow directions, and stay open-minded, we can stay clean. –Just For Today | More…

Many of us understand God to be simply whatever force keeps us clean.
Starting over in recovery means we can start over in our spiritual life, too.   If we’re not comfortable with what we learned when we were growing up, we can try a different approach to our spirituality.
We don’t have to understand everything all at once or find the answers to all our questions right away.
Sometimes it’s enough just to know that other members believe and that their belief helps keep them clean. –Just For Today | More…

(Definition: the choice, judgement, or control of when something should be done.)
The old ones say two things must be present for a miracle to take place.
One, the right time. Two, the right place.
This is why we need to honor our ceremonies.
Ceremonies are done in an order.  –Elders Meditations | More…

(Definition: revered due to sanctity; connected with God or dedicated to a religious purpose and so deserving veneration.)
Without a sacred center, no one knows right from wrong.
In the center of the circle is where the powers reside.
These powers are called love, principle, justice, spiritual knowledge, life, forgiveness and truth. We access these powers by being still, quieting the mind.
Only in this way do we know right from wrong. –Elders Meditations| More…

We can implement the Serenity Prayer, accepting what we can’t change and changing what we can.
Emotional pain may call for a therapist or friend, and spiritual distress may indicate the need for more prayer and meditation, closer contact with a Higher Power.
We can accept responsibility for our feelings, become willing to go to any lengths to get well, and choose not to be miserable. –Inner Harvest/Elisabeth L | More…

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Nervous and Mental dis-ease
Of, resembling, or produced by apoplexy
Unconsciousness or incapacity resulting from a cerebral haemorrhage or stroke.
Extreme anger.
From Ancient Greek ἀποπληξία, meaning ‘a striking away’
Any sudden death that began with a sudden loss of consciousness
Apoplexy was sometimes used to refer to the symptom of sudden loss of consciousness immediately preceding death.
The state of intense and almost uncontrollable anger
Overcome with anger; furious.

As soon as you step into the light, all fear and pain go away.
When we stand in the power, fear cannot exist.
How do we find this place of power? We pray our way into it.
When we get to that place, we will feel the fear go away. –Elders Meditations | More…

Patience is needed with everyone, but first of all with ourselves.
We forget to allow ourselves to fail, even though our growth up to now has been a series of failures that we’ve learned from.
With patience, we allow ourselves to take chances we might not otherwise explore, and we widen our world of possibilities.
Life has been patient with us so far, now it’s our turn. –Today’s Gift | More…

Becoming entirely ready to have our defects of character removed can be a long process, often taking place over the course of a lifetime. Our state of readiness grows in direct proportion to our awareness of these defects and the destruction they cause.
As we let go of our shortcomings and find their influence waning, we’ll notice that a loving God replaces those defects with quality attributes. Where we were fearful, we find courage.
Where we were selfish, we find generosity.  Our delusions about ourselves will disappear to be replaced by self-honesty and self-acceptance. –Just for Today | More…

What a relief we feel as we make sense out of our fear and begin to talk with each other.
We let go of secrets between us and work toward mutual understanding.
As we communicate, the knot in our stomach loosens and light reappears in our relationship. –The More We Find in Each Other | More…

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The rewards we find through the simple action of writing are many.
Clarity of thought, keys to locked places inside of us, and the voice of conscience are but a few.
Writing helps us be more honest with ourselves.
We sit down, quiet our thoughts, and listen to our hearts.
What we hear in the stillness are the truths that we put down on paper. –Just For Today | More…

Only mutual trust can be the foundation for great love — each of us for the other, and all of us for God. –AA Co-Founder, Bill W., 1960, “Freedom Under God: The Choice Is Ours”/The Language of the Heart

If we look closely and with love toward the people so carefully placed in our midst,
we’ll discover many hearts, like our own, searching for acceptance. –Worthy of Love | More…

As we continue our recovery journey, we can get side-tracked by complacency, intolerance, or dishonesty.  When we do, we need to recognize the signs quickly and get back on our path—the open road to freedom and growth. –Just For Today | More…

When we make decisions or experience conflict we need to look at the greater whole.
The end result we want to accomplish is peace of mind.
A good question to ask ourselves is, “would I rather be right or happy?” –Elders Meditations | More…

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Don’t sweat the small stuff, and remember, it’s all small stuff.
Drinking didn’t cause my problems, living did.
The practicing alcoholic is the only person in the world who can lie in the gutter and still look down on others.
AA meetings are the jumper cables God uses to get love flowing from one alcoholic to another –My Mind is Out to Get Me | More…

The Old People would gather words as they walked a sacred path across the Earth, leaving nothing behind but prayers and offerings.”
Whenever we walk on the Earth, we should pay attention to what is going on.
If we are aware as we walk, we will gather words for our lives, the lessons to help our children; we will gather feelings of interconnectedness and calmness.
When we experience this, we should say or think thoughts of gratitude. –Elders Meditations | More… 

To stay clean, we must find the willingness to change our old ways of thinking.
What has worked for others can work for us—but we must be willing to try it.
We must trade in our old cynical doubts for new affirmations of hope.
When we do, we’ll find it’s worth the risk. –Just For Today | More…

The rewards of asking for help – increased humility, connection, and trust – are well worth the effort. –‘H-E-L-P,’ Phoenix, Arizona, April 2011/AA Grapevine

Inside every human being is a need to dance. We dance to music.
Have you ever wondered why people are moved when they hear a Drum?
The drum is the heartbeat of the Mother Earth.
The beat of the drum makes our bodies, minds, and spirits join together in harmony.
It allows us to connect to Mother Earth and to each other.
The dance aligns our minds to think spiritual thoughts.
Dancing to the drum is healthy. –Elders Meditations | More…

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It’s healthy, wise, and loving to be considerate and responsive to the feelings and needs of others.
That’s different from caretaking. Caretaking is a self-defeating and a relationship defeating behavior Caretaking is a behavior that backfires and can cause us to feel resentful and victimized
Because ultimately, what we feel, want, and need will come to the surface.

We do not have to feel responsible for others.
We do not have to feel guilty about not feeling responsible for others.
We can learn to let ourselves feel good about taking responsibility for our needs and feelings. –The Language of Letting | More…

In my heart, I know that meetings benefit me in all kinds of ways.
Today, I want what’s good for me.  I will attend a meeting. –Just For Today | More…

Our hearts work like a tuning fork.
When the heart feels completely in tune with a decision or thought or action in our lives, then we know it is the right one for us.
We can actually feel the harmony inside our bodies. –Today’s Gift | More…

How do people with a long stretch of recovery learn to live without relapse?
Many of them mention sponsoring and being sponsored.
Sponsorship is one of the great gifts of the Twelve Step program, bearing an extraordinary power to turn a person’s life around. | More…

To believe that every tree, plant, and insect can talk takes an open mind.
Go by yourself into nature and sit quietly.
Then pick up a rock and listen to your thoughts.
After a while, put that rock down and pick up another rock.
Your thoughts will change.
These are the voices and wisdom of the Stone People. –Elders Meditations | More…

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We think that by ‘doing it right’, we will get rid of the shame,” observed psychologist Carol Travilla.

Some of us may be motivated to perfectionism by our toxic shame
The inner message we hear is: “Shame on you! You are needy. You are human.”
It’s fake guilt; and it’s poisonous.
We don’t have to be hooked into listening to these self-defeating messages.
God wants to release us from the overwhelming burden of perfectionism.
We can forget the false shame and relax.
God knows our human needs and he accepts and likes us anyway. –NAC/Joan C, Webb | More…

Hope is about the future.
It may be oriented to the next hour, or the next day, or the next month or year or decade.
But hope is always about anticipation.
Those of us who like to control things often find hope difficult because we do not control the future. Many of us are compulsive makers-of-plans.
We need to remind ourselves regularly, therefore, that God’s vision for the future is better than our own.

God has been clear about our future.
It is God’s intention to give us a hope and a future.
This is not a promise of a trouble-free life.
It is not a promise of immunity from struggle.
But it is a promise of hope.
God has been with us in the past.
God is with us in the present. And God will be with us in the future.

Thank you for paying attention to my future, Lord.
Thank you for making plans.
Help me today to rest in the thought that your plans for me include blessing.
Open my heart today to the hope and the future you have prepared for me. –NAC/D&J Ryan | More…

We reject fantasizing and accept reality. And we find it beautiful.
For, at last, we are at peace with ourselves. And with others. And with God. –“Learning to Handle Sobriety,” Connecticut, March 1975/Grapevine

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In working our program, we are given many indirect indications of a Higher Power’s presence in our lives. The clean feeling that comes to so many of us in taking our Fifth Step –Just For Today | More…

We care most about what we’re involved in directly. If we’re not personally involved, we’re not very enthusiastic. It’s our stake in something that makes it important. To feel more alive, we must be more alive. Caring is life and involvement is growth. –Days of Healing, Days of Joy/Earnie & Carol Larsen | More…

If we keep showing up at meetings and staying clean, life gets… well, different.
The continual search for answers to life’s ups and downs can lead us to question all aspects of our lives.
Life isn’t always pleasant. This is when we must turn to our Higher Power with even more faith.
Sometimes all we can do is hold on tight, believing that things will get better.

In time, our faith will produce understanding.
We will begin to see the “bigger picture” of our lives.
As our relationship with our Higher Power unfolds and deepens, acceptance becomes almost second-nature.
No matter what happens as we walk through recovery, we rely on our faith in a loving Higher Power and continue onward. –Just For Today | More…

A cause of unnecessary stress in planning results comes from our ingrained habit of regarding ourselves as inadequate. Thus, we quit too soon and rationalize our resignation with a “Why bother to try?” attitude.

I can make plans but not plan results. I can work out my plan, one day at a time, knowing that my past performance is NOT an infallible indicator of my present or future success. I can look forward with hope, not despair. –The Reflecting Pond/Liane Cordes | More…

Sometimes what we think is a setback is really a setup for God to do something great –Joel Osteen

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Quiet suggests a different quality of interaction with God, a quality of being that incorporates elements of solitude, silence and stillness. Elements that are interwoven in historical practices. Many of us are constantly plugged into the Internet, email and social media leading to digital addiction and an inability to be present to the here and now of our life.

If your heart is full of other things you cannot hear the voice of God –Mother Teresa

Contemplative prayer practice incorporates some degree of solitude, silence and stillness. To support your journey in contemplative spirituality, we are encouraged to explore these nine practices. Each one will vary in its degree of solitude, silence and stillness. Each practice teaches more about its history, methodology and impact –Gravity – More…

Do yourself a favour and make room for solitude, silence and stillness

We must learn how to be alone—how to be alone with ourselves and with God.
Scripture reveals that Jesus “often withdrew to places of solitude to pray.” (Luke 5:16) In solitude, we learn to be present. We learn to be present to our self, to God and to one another. As we let God heal our hidden neediness, anxiety and pain, we experience more authentic connection to our self, to God and to others.

Most of us don’t know how to be quiet. We do not truly listen. We can’t listen if we’re not quiet. And to get quiet, really quiet from the inside out, we need to practice Silence. Practicing silence helps us develop the ability to listen and discern God’s voice and leading.

Practicing stillness teaches us impulse control or restraint. Restraining us from the impulses of our human nature that are secretly out of control. We may not recognize these compulsions enslave us. These unconscious impulses feed our hidden obsessive need for affirmation, control and security. And keep us from freely giving of our highest and truest self to make our world a better place.

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There are three types of digital addiction which include phone addiction, internet addiction and social media addiction. Internet, email and social media lead us to digital addiction and an inability to be present to the here and now of our life.

Why is this? The answer has to do with limbic resonance, which cannot be found in adequate supply through online interactions.

We must dare to detach from our digital appendages and deal with the anxiety it produces in us.

Phone addiction is a dependence syndrome and a clinical addiction where users are affected by smartphone overuse which impacts their daily lives in a negative way. Addiction expert and therapist Paul Hokemeyer explains that this addiction can be a result of underlying behavioral health and personality issues. Those who do suffer with this addiction could have underlying issues like depression, anxiety and a socially challenged personality, causing them to constantly use their devices for comfort. —More…

Social media addiction is easy to define. If you spend far too much time on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and Snapchat to the point where you document each and every aspect of your life on any/all of the platform, you could be a social media addict. Although there’s no medical recognition of social media addiction, the term itself has become subject to research and investigation within recent years and overuse of Facebook in itself has been proven to be linked to a decrease in feelings of satisfaction and happiness. —More…

Internet addiction is  defined as an impulse control disorder, also known as pathological internet use, where some may find it difficult to differentiate between the virtual world and reality. Sufferers tend to spend excessive amounts of time online, not only eating up time but also causing a higher risk of overspending by getting involved in online gambling and gaming. —More…

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Prayer is the best answer to all of the trials that face us.
Without prayer, even if we succeed in accomplishing some great goal in the eyes of men, we have failed in our sacred responsibilities.
Thus we have failed in what is truly important.
What are our sacred responsibilities?
One is to be of maximum service to the Creator, and two is to serve the people.
In a way, it’s like the Great Spirit is the employer and we are the employees.
Working for the Creator is better than working for a human being.
Each night we can talk to the Creator and ask Him, “Well, how did I do today?”.
He answers back each night, “I’m proud of you, my child; sleep well, and in the morning I’ll give you a new set of growing experiences.”. –Elders Meditations | More…

Learning to live means learning to manage all our daily responsibilities.
If we can’t keep our clothes clean, take out the garbage, or get up on time, how can we expect to handle promotions, marriages, and crises?
Daily effort may seem inconsequential, but our big break is the result of all our todays well lived. –Day by Day | More…

What we really need to learn is how to live life.
Nature is the greatest university when we want to learn about balance, harmony, the Natural Laws and how to live life.
We will never learn unless we spend time in the “living university.”
Nature will help with Medicine, knowledge, and healing. –Elders Meditations | More…

Do we remember that we are fortunate just to be alive?
When we dwell in the “if onlys,” we get stuck in yesterday.
But what we have to work with today are “today’s tools,” and if we use them well, we’ll have no need for the “if onlys.” –Day by Day | More…

The story of the shipwrecked Robinson family is a lesson in patience. Today might have been one of those days where we felt our prayers weren’t answered. But we need to remember our prayers are heard. Now it is up to us to Let Go and Let God. –Night Light/Amy E. Dean | More…

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We learned the hard way that serenity comes only from working the steps.
A new car comes from showing up on the job every day and trying to “practice these principles in all our affairs,” including our employment.
Healthy relationships come as a result of lots of hard work and a new willingness to communicate.
Friendship with our sponsor comes as a result of reaching out during the good times as well as the bad.
In AA we have found the path to a better way of life.
To reach our destination, however, we must do the footwork. –Just For Today | More…

The Twelve Steps are given to us as a “suggested” program of recovery.
It is a program that works because it takes us out of our rigid ways.
We are continually made new. That is the vitality of the spiritual life. –Touchstones | More…

Mistakes are a very vital and important part of being human.
For particularly stubborn people (such as addicts), mistakes are often our best teachers.
There is no shame in making mistakes.
In fact, making new mistakes often shows our willingness to take risks and grow. –Just For Today | More…

As we approach this step, most of us are afraid that there is a monster inside of us that, if released, will destroy us.  We can only change what we acknowledge and understand.
Rather than continuing to fear what’s buried inside us, we can bring it out into the open.
We’ll no longer be frightened, and our recovery will flourish in the full light of self-awareness. –Just For Today | More…

A religious, or spiritual experience, is the act of giving up reliance on one’s own omnipotence. –Dr. Harry Tiebout, September 1944, Comments on Wylie Ideas/The Language of the Heart

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We must have respect and understanding for women and all female life.
The Woman has a powerful position in the Unseen World.
She has the special ability to bring forth life.
They told us to start showing Her respect and to look upon her in a sacred manner.
We must start this today. –Elders Meditations | More…

May I make no decision; engineer no change in the course of my life stream, without calling upon my Higher Power.
May I have faith that God’s plan for me is better than any scheme I could devise for myself. –A Day at a Time | More…

HP’s Will
The Twelve Steps are a path to spiritual awakening.
When we open our hearts wide enough to sense our Higher Power’s guidance, we feel a calm serenity.
This peace is the beacon that guides us through our troubled feelings, providing clear direction when our minds are busy and confused.
Fear or doubt may plague us when we attempt to carry out our Higher Power’s will, but we’ve learned to trust the moment of clarity.
Our greatest happiness lies in following the will of our loving God. –Just For Today | More…

How do we begin having more fun?
The first step is deciding to leave the past behind.
Having more fun is clearly a decision that is coupled with action.
Any one of us can do it as well as we want to. –Keepers of the Wisdom /Karen Casey | More…

The Elders tell us change occurs in two directions.
That which is built is constantly being destroyed; and that which is loose is being used to build the new.
In other words, change is constantly going on.
The Great Spirit designed people with change abilities such as visioning, imagery and imagination.
We need to learn to use these tools and then we’ll look forward to change. –Elders Meditations | More…

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My spirituality has a lot to do with the way I use my life energy.
The key is never let our recovery become “dead in the water.”
We keep a good direction by working the Steps.
Working the Steps tells us what we need to be doing and where we need to go in our recovery.
Our sponsor helps us with this and helps us stay on course. –God Grant Me. . . | More…

The Old People would gather words as they walked a sacred path across the Earth, leaving nothing behind but prayers and offerings.”
Whenever we walk on the Earth, we should pay attention to what is going on.
If we are aware as we walk, we will gather words for our lives, the lessons to help our children; we will gather feelings of interconnectedness and calmness.
When we experience this, we should say or think thoughts of gratitude. –Elders Meditations | More…

I need to remember how humiliated, confused, insecure and frightened I felt at my first meeting, and compare that to how I feel today. –“Know Thyself!” Poughkeepsie, New York, July 2011/AA Grapevine

After taking the Fifth Step, one by one, we examined our character defects.
And were we entirely ready to have God remove all of them. –Just For Today | More…

If not now, when? If not me. who?
You must be the person who prays and meditates.
You must be the person who will sacrifice.
You must decide to be a peaceful Warrior.
What will you decide today? –Elders Meditations | More…

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When the miracle happens, the wants and needs of the ego are limited and short sighted.
God’s will is vast and includes infinite possibilities for happiness and fulfilment.
By developing the faith to truly seek God’s will, I’ve been able to let go of controlling others, be of service, and to let go of expectations. –Wisdom Of The Rooms | More…

Making amends is simple.  We approach the person we have harmed and say, “I was wrong.”
To make effective amends, we have to keep it simple: we admit our part, and leave it at that.
After all, we were the ones in the wrong.  We have done our part; the rest is out of our hands. –Just For Today | More…

Why dwell on what you can’t do? … Why not concentrate on what you can do and do it? –“If You Can’t Live or Die, Make Coffee!” Freeport, New York, September 1988/The Home Group: Heartbeat of AA/Grapevine

Hope is about the future.
It may be oriented to the next hour, or the next day, or the next month or year or decade.
But hope is always about anticipation.
Those of us who like to control things often find hope difficult because we do not control the future.
Many of us are compulsive makers-of-plans.
We need to remind ourselves regularly, therefore, that God’s vision for the future is better than our own.

God has been clear about our future.
It is God’s intention to give us a hope and a future.
This is not a promise of a trouble-free life.
It is not a promise of immunity from struggle.
But it is a promise of hope.
God has been with us in the past.
God is with us in the present.
And God will be with us in the future.

Thank you for paying attention to my future, Lord.
Thank you for making plans.
Help me today to rest in the thought that your plans for me include blessing.
Open my heart today to the hope and the future you have prepared for me. –NAC/D&J Ryan | More…

In AA we aim not only for sobriety – we try again to become citizens of the world that we rejected, and of the world that once rejected us. –AA Co-Founder, Bill W.,/AA Grapevine

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Pray to the East every morning.
Your mind will expand and you will experience oneness with the Great Spirit.
You’ll realize how much the Creator loves you! Just try it! –Elders Meditations | More…

The gifts we receive are meant to be shared.
When I am willing to share the gifts I have received, I always have enough,
because what I give comes back to me. –Inner Harvest/Elisabeth L. | More…

We can practice forgiveness each day.
Resentments have a way of creeping back into my psyche
When I remember that my track record is far from perfect,
I realize I could use some daily forgiveness, both from others and from myself.
I can let go of resentments and forgive.
If resentments come back, I can forgive again. –Inner Harvest/Elisabeth L. | More…

The steps lead to an awakening of a spiritual nature.  This awakening is evidenced by changes in our lives.
Just as the disease of addiction is evidenced by definite symptoms, so is a spiritual awakening made manifest by certain obvious signs in a recovering addict. Such as,
Thinking and acting spontaneously, loss of interest in judging, unmistakable ability to enjoy each moment, and frequent attacks of smiling. –Just For Today | More…

When we lose sight of interconnectedness, separation, possessiveness and infighting results.
At an individual level, if we don’t believe we are connected to all things we get self-centered and have self-seeking motives.
We must think in harmony, balance and integrity.
We must see our relationship to the great whole and conduct ourselves accordingly. –Elders Meditations | More…

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We want to be free of our guilt, but we don’t wish to do so at the expense of anyone else.
The Ninth Step is not about easing our guilty consciences; it’s about taking responsibility for the wrongs we’ve done.
We are not just seeking freedom from remorse—we are seeking freedom from our defects. –Just For Today | More…

Worry is a terrible waste of the imagination
Today I use my imagination to envision my life and world as God would have it be,
Rather than worry that it might not turn out the way I would have it. –Wisdom of the Rooms | More…

I build today the road I travel tomorrow. –“Short Takes,” Binghamton, New York, July 1967/AA Grapevine

There is a relationship between thought and reality.
Every thought is alive, and as soon as you think it, a result occurs immediately.
This occurs because the Laws of the Great Spirit act immediately.
When you tell a lie, you immediately experience fear.
When you tell the truth, you immediately experience freedom.
To the Creator, there is no time.
For us to experience the meaning of this requires us to act on faith.
Faith is belief without evidence. –Elders Meditations | More…

The night time is full of life, full of song, and full of beauty.
At night all our senses change their roles.
Because we can’t see, our hearing is much stronger, our smell is even more enhanced, our sight is different.
We can close our eyes and experience interconnectedness in a different way. –Elders Meditations | More…

We will still have daydreams … But they will be constructive dreams, rather than mere flights of fancy. –New York, NY, August 1948./Grapevine

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The most relaxing activities may be the ones in which we do absolutely nothing.
If we can do nothing amid the sounds of nature – birds chirping, water bubbling in a brook, the wind rustling in the trees – so much the better.
The point is to slow down, to hear our own thoughts.
When we remember nature, we remember – our bodies remember – that we are a part of nature, part of something greater than ourselves. –Body, Mind, and Spirit | More…

Attaching value judgments to our emotional reactions ties us to our old ways of thinking.
We can change the way we think about the incidents of everyday life, viewing them as opportunities for growth.
We can search for lessons rather than assigning value. When we do this, we learn something from each day.
Our daily Tenth Step is an excellent tool for evaluating the day’s events and learning from both success and failure. –Just For Today | More…

You move toward and become like that which you think about.
If we think about secret things, these secret things will come to pass.
Our visions are very powerful. Visions determine our direction, our lives.
We should think about our visions to make sure they include the Great Spirit in every area. –Elders Meditations | More…

Hidden in ceremonies are many truths, principles, guidelines for living — access to the Unseen World, healing and visions.
We need to go to the Elders and learn the ceremonies so we can pass them on to our children. –Elders Meditations | More…

Simplicity, devotion, steadfastness, and loyalty; these, were the hallmarks of character which Dr. Bob had well implanted in so many of us. –Bill W., September 1950/”We Came of Age,”/The Language of the Heart

When we concentrate on loving those we think are unlovable, we find out how expansive love is. –North Hollywood, California, September 1988/Grapevine

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There is a concept that says you move toward and become that which you think about.
We all need to pray and meditate on this.
We need to understand the property of unity. –Elders Meditations | More…

Happiness in recovery and in society depends on our honesty. There is no such thing as too much honesty.
When we practice honesty in all our affairs, we discover the reason for being honest is not because it is expected of us, but because we find that honesty avoids problems and makes our life happier. –Easy Does It | More…

In the Twelve Steps, AA offers an historical record of how more than 25,000 [now over 2,000,000] alcoholics achieved sobriety.–“A Way of Life,” Chicago, Illinois, July 1946/Grapevine

We examined our lives and discovered who we really are.
To be truly humble is to accept and honestly try to be ourselves.|
Once we began our recovery, we entered a new and different life.
We couldn’t be ourselves because we didn’t know who we were anymore.
The Twelve Steps give us a simple method for finding out who we really are
The real healing begins when we understand that if our Higher Power created us this way, it must be okay to be who we really are.
By working the steps we can experience the freedom to be ourselves, the person our Higher Power intended us to be. –Just For Today | More…

The spirit world is sometimes hard to believe in because we can’t see it.
We need to believe that the Unseen World exists and the Unseen World is guided by principles, laws, and values.
If we have doubts, we can pray to the Great Spirit to remove the doubt.
He’s always ready to help us during our doubtful times.
We are lucky to have such an understanding and helpful Father.–Elders Meditations | More…

The best help we can get or give is that which enables us to do things without it.
Only when we are each strong enough to stand on our own can we really share the kind of help, which allows both the helped and the helper to be independent. –Today’s Gift | More…

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We’ve found the tools we need to successfully meet any challenge.
We’ve taken action to improve our conscious contact with a Higher Power, through the steps
Each day, we are faced with new challenges.
And each day, through working our program of recovery, we are given the grace to meet those challenges. –Just For Today | More…

Human beings come and go, but principles go on and on. –‘People and Principles,’ Jackson, Michigan, October 1971/Grapevine

When I’m in fear, maybe I should get a bigger God. –“A Bigger God,” Los Angeles, Calif., March 2002/Beginners’ Book: Getting and Staying Sober/Grapevine

Three grand essentials to happiness in this life are;
1, something to do,
2, something to love,
3, something to hope for.
Happiness is our birth-right so long as we live fully and love truly. –Worthy of Love/Karen Casey | More…

Today, we are too greedy and selfish. We are cheating our children, grandchildren, and the children unborn.
The Creator made the Earth to support life so that life would continue to reproduce, everything would support one another, and future generations would have the same benefits of supply and beauty as the generations the proceeded them.
This cycle will only continue to the degree that we make choices and decisions for the future generations. –Elders Meditations | More…

Changing ourselves, allowing ourselves to grow while others seek their own path, is how we have the most beneficial impact on people we love. –The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie | More…

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Letting go and letting God does not mean that I do not have to put any effort into the Program.
It is up to me to work the Twelve Steps, to learn what may be an entirely new thing with me – honesty. –A Day at a Time | More…

By opening ourselves to others, we risk becoming vulnerable, but that risk is well worth the rewards.
With the help of others, we learn how to express our feelings honestly and openly.
In turn, we become nourished and encouraged by the unconditional love of our companions.
As we practice spiritual principles, we find strength and freedom, both in ourselves and in those around us.
We are set free to be ourselves and to enjoy the company of our fellows. –Just For Today | More…

Meetings offer us identification with where we’ve been and where we can go—identification we can’t do without and can’t get anywhere else.  That keeps us coming back. –Just For Today | More…

Mother Teresa turned her life and will over to God, and her work was what she believed to be God’s will for her.
Because of this, she was devoted to the task itself, not to the completion of it. –Days of Healing, Days of Joy | More…

We believe that our Higher Power will take care of us.
As we progress in our recovery, we are sure to greet the difficult times with a sense of hope, despite the pain we may be in.
We need not despair, for we know that our Higher Power’s care will carry us through when we can’t walk on our own. –Just For Today | More…

Whatever strengthens the spirituality of the group strengthens my spirituality, and vice versa. –“Tradition Five: What a Group ‘Ought’ to Be,” May 2006/Grapevine

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Two definitions of humility are; one, being aware of one’s own defects of character, and two, giving credit where credit is due.
This means if you do something and are successful because God gave you certain talents, give credit to God when someone tells you how well you did; this is being humble.
If you are successful at something, but had help from friends, spouse, neighbours, give credit to those who helped you; this is being humble.
If you have done a task and you alone accomplished it, give credit to yourself; this is being humble. –Elders Meditation | More…

Anger as a response to injustice is spiritually healthy.
A theology of anger invites us to shake off the shackles of denial, resignation, and nihilism.
It can help us construct healthy boundaries.–Barbara Holmes

The East, South, West, and North are the powers of the four directions.
The Creator makes these powers available to do things.
We pray to the Creator to give us the power to do these things.
Often, we are given these powers for a while, then these powers disappear.
Power is given and taken from us by the Great Spirit, the source of power.
During the time we have this power, we should be responsible and use the power in a good way.
Many good things can be accomplished when we realize where this power really comes from. –Elders Meditations | More…

The White Man’s way is to possess, control, and divide.
It has always been difficult for Indian people to understand this.
There are certain things we cannot own that must be shared.
The Land is one of these things.
We do not own the Earth; the Earth owns us.
Today, let us ponder the true relationship between the Earth and ourselves. –Elders Meditations | More…

Procrastination is the thief of time. When we have a problem and put things off, we add to our troubles
Whether we are putting off an important task or letting little undone jobs accumulate, we can ask ourselves for the spiritual message in our actions.
Perhaps we need some quiet time to do absolutely nothing. Maybe our perfectionism is paralyzing us.
Is an “all or nothing” attitude telling us if we can’t do the whole job right away, there is no point in beginning?
Unexpressed anger may be blocking us from doing what we need to do.
When we find ourselves doing things that seem irrational we can ask, “What is the message from my Higher Power in this behavior?”
This question will carry us much further toward spiritual growth than the mental criticism we are tempted to do. –Touchstones | More…

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I pray I may continue to grow in unselfishness, enough to care about the lives of all alcoholics, wherever they may be — those that are with us and those yet to come. –“You Call This Unity!” Piscataway, New Jersey, January 1992/AA Grapevine

When we stop living in the here and now, our problems become magnified unreasonably.
We don’t have to fix everything at once. Solving a single problem seems possible, so we take them one at a time.
We take care of each moment as it comes, and then take care of the next moment as it comes.
We learn to stay clean just for today, and we approach our problems the same way.
When we live life in each moment, it’s not such a terrifying prospect.  One breath at a time, we can stay clean and learn to live. –Just For Today | More…

Truly transforming spiritual experiences are nearly always founded on calamity and collapse. –AA Co-Founder, Bill W., August 1957, “The Physicians”/The Language of the Heart

We need to be careful about judging the old ones when we talk.
When they speak, listen very carefully.
Often it will take weeks or maybe even years before we understand what they are really saying.
This is the way of Wisdom.
We need to listen, listen, listen. –Elders Meditations | More…

There is no power greater than the Natural Laws.
These powers were set up by the Great Spirit in such a way that the human being has no access to it, except by obeying.
If we choose not to follow the Natural Laws, our lives will be filled with confusion, tension, anxiety and stress.
If we poison the Earth, we poison ourselves. If we poison the Water of the Earth, we poison ourselves.
As we do to the Earth, we do to ourselves and our children, even the children unborn. –Elders Meditations | More…

What we are destined to learn in this life will keep presenting itself until “contact” has been made.
The Steps coach us through every situation
And they never shame us for needing reminders of our lessons. –A Woman’s Spirit/Karen Casey | More…


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‘Love’ by Bishop Michael Curry; Presiding bishop of the American Episcopal Church, presented a magnificent sermon at the wedding of Prince Harry and Meghan Markel on 19 May 2018 at Windsor in the U.K.

The Text of the Sermon

And now in the name of our loving liberating and life giving God, Father, Son and Holy Spirit, amen.

From the Song of Solomon in the Bible: Set me as a seal upon your heart, as a seal upon your arm, for love is as strong as death, passion as fierce as the grave, its flashes of flashes of fire, a raging flame. Many waters cannot quench love, neither can floods drown it out

The late Dr. Martin Luther King once said, and I quote: we must discover the power of love, the redemptive power of love, and when we do that we will make of this old world a new world. For love is the only way.

There’s power in love. Don’t underestimate it. Don’t even over-sentimentalize it. There’s power, power in love. If you don’t believe me, think about a time when you first fell in love. The whole world seemed to center around you and your beloved. There’s power, power in love.

Not just in its romantic forms but any form, any shape of love. There’s a certain sense in which when you are loved and you know it, when someone cares for you and you know it, when you love and you show it, it actually feels right. There’s something right about it.

And there’s a reason for it. The reason has to do with the source. We were made by a power of love. And our lives were meant and are meant to be lived in that love. That’s why we are here.

Ultimately the source of love is God himself, the source of all of our lives. There’s an old medieval poem that says, “where true love is found, God himself is there.”

The New Testament says it this way, “beloved, let us love one another because love is of God and those who love are born of God and know God, those who do not love do not know God. Why? For God is love. There’s power in love. There’s power in love to help and heal when nothing else can. There’s power in love to lift up and liberate when nothing else will. There’s power in love to show us the way to live. Set me as a seal on your heart. A seal on your arm. For love it’s strong as death.

But love is not only about a young couple. Now the power of love is demonstrated by the fact that we are all here. Two young people fell in love and we all showed up. But it’s not just for and about a young couple who we rejoice with.

It’s more than that. Jesus of Nazareth on one occasion was asked by a lawyer to sum up the essence of the teachings of Moses. He went back and reached back into the Hebrew scriptures, to Deuteronomy and Leviticus, and Jesus said you shall love the lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, all your mind and all your strength.

This is the first and great commandment and the second is like it: love your neighbor as yourself. And then in Matthew’s version, he added, he said, on these two Love of God and Love of Neighbor, hang all the law, all the prophets, everything that Moses wrote, everything in the holy prophets, everything in the scriptures, everything that God has been trying to tell the world. Love God, love your neighbors, and while you’re at it, love yourself.

Now someone once said that Jesus began the most revolutionary movement in all of human history, a movement grounded in the unconditional love of God for the world. A movement mandating people to live that love. And in so doing, to change not only their lives but the very life of the world itself.

I’m talking about some power, real power. Power to change the world. If you don’t believe me, well, there were some old slaves in America’s antebellum south who explained the dynamic power of love and why it has the power to transform. They explained it this way. They sang a spiritual, even in the midst of their captivity, it’s one that says there’s a balm in Gilead. A healing balm, something that can makes things right.

There is a balm in Gilead to make the wounded whole. There is a balm in Gilead to heal the sin-sick soul. One of the stanzas actually explains why: they said, If you cannot preach like Peter and you cannot pray like Paul, you just tell the love of Jesus how he died to save us all. Oh that’s the balm in Gilead. This way of love is the way of life. They got it, he died to save us all. He didn’t die for anything he could get out of it. Jesus did not get an honorary doctorate for dying. He wasn’t getting anything out of it. He gave up his life, he sacrificed his life for the good of the others, for the good of the other, for the well-being of the world. For us, that’s what love is.

Love is not selfish and self-centered. Love can be sacrificial. And in so doing, becomes redemptive, and that way of unselfish, sacrificial, redemptive love, changes lives. And it can change this world. If you don’t believe me, just stop and think or imagine. Think and imagine, well, think and imagine a world where love is the way. Imagine our homes and families when love is the way. Imagine neighborhoods and communities where love is the way. Imagine governments and nations where love is the way. Imagine business and commerce when love is the way. Imagine this tired old world when love is the way, unselfish, sacrificial redemptive. When love is the way, then no child will go to bed hungry in this world ever again. When love is the way, we will let justice roll down like a mighty stream and righteousness like an everflowing brook. When love is the way, poverty will become history. When love is the way, the earth will be a sanctuary. When love is the way, we will lay down our swords and shields down, down by the riverside to study war no more. When love is the way, there’s plenty good room, plenty good room, for all of God’s children. Because when love is the way, we actually treat each other, well, like we are actually family. When love is the way, we know that God is the source of us all and we are brothers and sisters, children of God. My brothers and sisters, that’s a new heaven, a new earth, a new world, a new human family. And let me tell you something, old Solomon was right in the Old Testament, that’s fire.

Pierre Teilhard de Chardin and with this, I will sit you down. We’ve got to get you all married.

French Jesuit Pierre Teilhard de Chardin was arguably one of the great minds, one of the great spirits of the 20th century. A Jesuit, Roman Catholic priest, scientist, a scholar, a mystic. In some of his writings, he said from his scientific background as well as his theological one. In some of his writings, he said as others have, that the discovery or invention or harnessing of fire was one of the great scientific and technological discoveries in all of human history. Fire to a great extent made human civilization possible. Fire made it possible to cook food and to provide sanitary ways of eating which reduced the spread of disease in its time. Fire made it possible to heat warm environments and thereby made human migration around the world a possibility, even into colder climates. Fire made it possible, there was no Bronze Age without fire, no Iron Age without fire, no industrial revolution without fire. The advances of science and technology are greatly dependent on the human ability and capacity to take fire and use it for human good.

Anybody get here in a car today? An automobile? Nod your heads if you did, I’m guessing, I know there were some carriages. But those of us who came in cars, the controlled harnessed fire made that possible. I know that the Bible says, and I believe it, that Jesus walked on the water, but I have to tell you I didn’t walk across the Atlantic Ocean to get here. Controlled fire in that plane got me here. Fire makes it possible for us to text and tweet and email and Instagram and Facebook and socially be dysfunctional with each other. Fire makes all of that possible and de Chardin said that fire was one of the greatest discoveries in all of human history. And he then went on to say that if humanity every harnesses the energy of fire again, if humanity ever captures the energy of love, it will be the second time in history that we have discovered fire.

Dr. King was right, we must discover love. The redemptive power of love. And when we do that, we will make of this old world a new world. My brother, my sister, God love you. God bless you. And may God hold us all in those almighty hands of love.


The family is the seed of the future.
We should really take a look at how we are looking at our families. –Just For Today | More…

Modern civilization has no understanding of sacred matters.
We need to have guidance from the Creator to help us rebuild our families, our communities and ourselves.  –Elders Meditations | More…

Peace and enlightenment come when you stop evaluating in terms of good or bad and merely accept all of life as it is and try to learn from it. –El Granada, California, March 1989/”A Program of Action,” The Best of the Grapevine, Volume 3

My gratitude speaks when I care and when I share with others.
When we share with tears in our eyes, when we choke up and can’t talk at all—these are the times when our gratitude speaks most clearly. We share our gratitude directly from our hearts; with their hearts, others hear and understand. Our gratitude speaks eloquently, though our words may not. –Just For Today | More…

Each group has but one primary purpose—to carry the message to the addict who still suffers. Once we have gotten clean, we must remember to give to others what was so freely given to us. We need to reach out to the addict who still suffers. The newcomer is the most important person at any meeting. –Just For Today | More…

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There are two Worlds that exist. The Seen World and the Unseen World.
Sometimes these worlds are called the Physical World and the Spiritual World. –Elders Meditations | More…

We shall never be at our best except when we hew only to the primary spiritual aim of AA. That of carrying its message to the alcoholic who still suffers alcoholism. –Bill W., April 1948 “Tradition Five”/The Language of the Heart

Love is the be all and end all. If we are capable of loving, we have nothing to worry about. One barrier is our belief in the overriding importance of our intelligence.
Intelligence is like good looks; they are both unearned. Our Creator does not evaluate us on the basis of how intelligent we are. If we ask, God will help us overcome our reliance on our intelligence and all other handicaps that keep us from expressing love. –In God’s Care/Karen Casey | More…

Each person has good medicine, a special talent, a special gift. These medicines are to help others or to help make us healthy. –Elders | More…

Misery is optional. Though we can’t control what happens to us, we can determine how we interpret and react to what happens. We can implement the Serenity Prayer, accepting what we can’t change and changing what we can. Emotional pain may call for a therapist or friend, and spiritual distress may indicate the need for more prayer and meditation, closer contact with a Higher Power. We can accept responsibility for our feelings, become willing to go to any lengths to get well, and choose not to be miserable. –Inner Harvest/Elisabeth L | More…

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In early recovery change feels easy, and hope replaces despair. What’s really happening is, our addictive craving has been treated However we still have our old problems, habits, and states of mind. For spirits in need of healing, Step work leads to the next phase of recovery. –If You Want What We Have/Joan Larkin | More…

Hold people accountable for their behavior. Don’t let people treat you badly. Don’t take the storms in their lives personally. These storms may have nothing to do with you. If the storm isn’t about you, there’s nothing you need to do. Would you stop the ocean waves by standing in the surf with your arms outstretched? –Melody Beattie | More…

One of the many positive signs of our return to health and sanity is our recovery of the gift of laughter. Each day we gain more energy and zest of life, We laugh and find we are no longer alone. Laughter is the mark of a healthy, happy human being. Laughter is a sign that we are alive and on the way to recovery. –Answers in the Heart/P. Williamson & S. Kiser | More…

I have learned a lot from trees. Nature is the greatest teacher on the Earth. We can learn a lot when we observe and study Nature’s system of harmony and balance. –Elders Meditations | More…

The rewards of asking for help – increased humility, connection, and trust – are well worth the effort. –‘H-E-L-P,’ Phoenix, Arizona, April 2011/AA Grapevine

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The way to make a mountain out of a mole hill is to add dirt. Today I have the tools to keep a mole hill from becoming a mountain. Three favourites to remember are;
#1: There is a solution.
#2: Whatever is happening it is temporary.
#3: God is in charge.
By focusing on God – and not the problem – I get to experience serenity while the situation sorts itself out – as it always does. And by not adding dirt to the mole hill, I avoid the imaginary mountain that used to make my life unmanageable. — Wisdom of the Rooms | More…

What is obvious to me is that we did not create ourselves… life is something inside of you. You did not create it. Once you understand that, you are in a spiritual realm. Virginia Satir. –Touchstones | More…

Ongoing recovery is dependent on our relationship with a loving God who cares for us and will do for us what we find impossible to do for ourselves –Just For Today | More…

Living just for today relieves the burden of the past and the fear of the future. We learned to take whatever actions are necessary and to leave the results in the hands of our Higher Power. –Just For Today | More…

The Elders say everyone wants to be happy and have a peaceful mind. Material things do not bring happiness and peace of mind. Only spiritual things bring happiness.  –Elders Meditations | More…

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Angels as people who do nice things for us without expecting much in return. They give for the love of giving. They seek opportunities to help, even when it seems inconvenient. Their beliefs aren’t always aligned with ours. But when we need them, they are there. An angel can be someone you know or you meet in passing. Angels enhance your life, if even for a moment. –52 Weeks of Esteemable Acts/Francine Ward | More…

Soil is soothing, strengthening, cleansing and healing… If you are stressed, go to a spot on the Earth, sit down, put your fingers in the dirt, dig in it. Wash your hands in the soil. When you touch it, notice what it does to your hands. Our bodies love to touch the Earth. We get too busy and forget these simple things. These things are mentally healthy. –Elders Meditations | More…

we simply fail to recognize miracles for what they are. Sobriety — one-day-at-a-time — is truly a miracle. –Prineville, Oregon, February 2004/Grapevine

Who really gets better?  We do!  As we practice the program, we gain a whole new outlook on those around us by gaining a new outlook on ourselves. –Just For Today | More…

Step One helps us give up our obsession. In Steps Two and Three we develop a trust in a Higher Power and thus give up our fear. We come to believe it’s not our job to get anyone sober. Our job is to find happiness and offer love to others. Nothing can better us more than this. Time spent at meetings is never wasted. Happiness will be strengthened each time we use some part of the program. — A Life of My Own/Karen Casey  | More…

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When we work the Twelve Steps to the best of our ability, we find that we can become the type of people who are capable of finding employment, sustaining loving relationships, and helping others. We stop serving our disease, and begin serving God and others. The Twelve Steps are the key to transforming our lives. –Just For Today | More…

Prayer is our entrance into the Unseen World. We can call upon the powers and laws of the Great Spirit. The spiritual laws allow healing to take place; they allow forgiveness to occur; they cause miracles to happen; they cause hate to disappear; they heal broken relationships; they guide every moment of our lives; they allow us to love even when it’s hard. Prayer allows us access to the Spirit World. –Elders Meditations | More…

The Twelve Steps to Insanity
1. We admitted we were powerless over nothing – that we could manage our lives perfectly. We could also perfectly manage the lives of those around us.
2. Came to believe that there was no power greater than ourselves and that the rest of the world was insane.
3. Made a decision to have our loved ones turn their wills and lives over to our care even though they couldn’t understand us at all.
4. Made a searching and fearless inventory of everyone we knew.
5. Admitted to the whole world the exact nature of everyone else’s wrongs.
6. Were entirely ready to make others give us the respect we thought we deserved.
7. Demanded that others do our will because we were always enlightened.
8. Made a list of all the persons who had harmed us and became willing to go to any length to get even with them all.
9. Got direct revenge on such people wherever possible except when to do so would cost us our lives or at least a jail sentence.
10. Continued to take inventory of others, and when they were wrong promptly and repeatedly told them about it.
11. Sought through complaining and self-medication to improve our relations with others as we could not understand them at all, asking only that they do things our way.
12. Having had a complete physical, emotional, and spiritual breakdown as a result of these steps, we tried to blame others and get sympathy in all our affairs.

Your mind works very simply: you are either trying to find out what are God’s laws in order to follow them; or you are trying to outsmart him.
It is the Law that any difficulties that can come to you at any time, no matter what they are, must be exactly what you need most at the moment, to enable you to take the next step forward by overcoming them.  The only real misfortune, the only real tragedy, comes when we suffer without learning the lesson. –Emmet Fox

Inspirations never go in for long engagements; they demand immediate marriage to action. –Brendan Francis

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Prideful or angry people can sometimes be dead right, when the calm and the more humble are quite mistaken. –Bill W. 1959/Grapevine

Our Elders know about the two Worlds, the Physical World and the Spiritual World. Many times, before we pass to the Spirit World, our relatives, who have gone there before us, will come for us and they will help us. The Spirit World, the Elders say, is a good, happy, and harmonious place. When we die, it means we have only entered another world. We will all see one another again.–Elders Meditations | More…

Meditation can give us glimpses of God’s timelessness. We see that our schedule is not that important after all, when measured against eternity. As the presence of God seeps into our consciousness, we relax into the fullness and peace of each moment. Trusting our Higher Power to order our lives, we can slow down and enjoy God’s gifts. — Food for Thought by Elisabeth L. | More…

AA said, only God can remove our defects. I was amazed to find that I couldn’t be a better person simply by trying harder! — California, July 1995/Interview with the Author of ‘Doctor, Alcoholic, Addict,’/Grapevine

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Recovery does not give us immunity from the realities of life. In the Fellowship we can find the support, genuine care, and concern we need to face those realities. We need never hide from reality, for our unity with other recovering addicts gives us strength. The support, the care, and the empathy of recovery give us a clean, clear window through which to view, experience, and appreciate reality as it is. –Just For Today | More…

Courage empowers us to act in favour of what we believe, but cannot know. Courage is animated by the vision of faith. Many who think themselves as not spiritual, are excellent models of faith because they reach out for what is not common in their lives. Because they believe, they’re willing and able to take the risk. — Days of Healing, Days of Joy/Earnie and Carol Larsen Hegarty | More…

In some mysterious and wonderful way you are part of everything. And in that same mysterious and wonderful way, everything is a part of you. In order to experience this, we must be aware of how limited our senses are. –Elders Meditations| More…

Detachment is neither unloving nor unkind. It’s simply accepting the fact that we can’t live others’ lives for them. It’s coming to understand that detaching with love is one of the best things we can do for our addicted loved ones. Here are eight reasons why

The Fourth Step lets me look into my fear of not getting something I want or of losing something I have, and move forward to try to establish true partnerships with other human beings. –Riverdale, Michigan, April 1997/Grapevine

As we examine resentments, we may feel tempted to hold onto some of them, especially if we think they are “justified.” What we need to remember is that “justified” resentments are just as burdensome as any other resentment. –Just For Today | More…

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When we realize we’re procrastinating, we need free ourselves from the burden of perfectionism, and be free to better accept our responsibilities. Meeting deadlines as well as we can, one at a time, pays off in serenity and a manageable life. When we are crisis ridden, we are forced to live by other peoples’ demands, rather than by our choices.
In the face of procrastination, resentment, or perfectionism, we can turn to Step Ten for an inventory. We can forgive ourselves, try to laugh at ourselves, live in the present, and keep going. Today can be better than yesterday. — Answers in the Heart/P. Williamson and S. Kiser | More…

The law is that all life is equal in the Great Creation. Every generation is accountable to leave the environment in healthy order for the next generation. Each individual is directly accountable. –Elder’s Meditations/White Bison | More…

I had cut my finger and it had gotten well; I’d broken a bone and it had gotten well … How come? That to me, in its simplest form, is a concept of a power greater than I am. –California, October 1995, “Interview with the Author of ‘Physician, Heal Thyself!'”/Grapevine

What do we do with temptations when they come? Whatever we sow we will simultaneously reap for ourselves. We must be accountable for our own actions. –Elder’s Meditations/White Bison | More…

Through the principles of this program, we are learning to forgive and to trust that we will always be cared for. The experiences designed for our progress will come to us. Our Higher Power will never leave our side. We can be free of fear today, if that’s our wish. –A Woman’s Spirit/Karen Casey | More…

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Self-acceptance comes when we accept that we have a disease called addiction. It’s easier to accept ourselves as sick people than as bad people. Working the Twelve Steps teaches us to accept ourselves and our lives. Spiritual principles like surrender, honesty, faith, and humility help relieve us of the burden of our past mistakes. –Just For Today | More…

When we consult an AA friend, we should not be reluctant to remind him of our need for full privacy. The protective sanctity of this most healing of human relations ought never be violated. –, Bill W., August 1961/This Matter of Honesty/  Grapevine

We all come from one Great Spirit but we are all different and unique. We each belong here and do things that will affect the great whole. –Elders Meditations/White Bison 19/04 | More…

In my heart, I know that meetings benefit me in all kinds of ways. Today, I want what’s good for me.  I will attend a meeting. –Just For Today | More…

Research shows that people who have a positive attitude are healthier, live longer, and are more likely to recover from serious illness. To believe in hopeful outcomes is largely a matter of choice. The Second Step guides us to believe in hopeful possibilities. Wisdom To Know | More…

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The unity of the Fellowship of the spirit can be ours so long as we are willing to pass it on. –West Palm Beach, Florida, March 1989/”Building an Arch,”/Grapevine

The Seventh Step doesn’t suggest that we rid ourselves of our shortcomings; But rather that we ask our Higher Power to rid us of them. The focus of our daily prayers begins to shift.  Admitting our inability to perfect ourselves, we plead with our Higher Power to do for us what we cannot do for ourselves. Through the eyes of the Seventh Step, we begin to see those around us in a less critical way. We know that, just like us, they are powerless over their own defects. We wonder if they, too, humbly pray to have their defects removed. —-Just For Today | More…

How do you know if you are praying from your heart or from your head? Pray from your head and you will feel nothing; pray from your heart and you will feel feelings. When we ask for purification of our feelings, our mental mind and our physical body, the spiritual direction causes the cleansing to happen. –Elders | More…

The problem with isolating is that you get such bad advice –Wisdom of the Rooms

Our hearts work like a tuning fork. When the heart feels completely in tune with a decision or thought or action in our lives, then we know it is the right one for us. We can actually feel the harmony inside our bodies. –Today’s Gift | More…

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If we act confidently and extend ourselves, we’ll not only feel better about ourselves, we’ll find that we are no longer so frightened. Each action we take in this vein brings us closer to becoming the people we were meant to be. Each positive change we make builds our self-esteem. Through acting differently, we will realize that we are beginning to think differently. We are living ourselves into right thinking by “acting as if.” –Just For Today | More…

Our Elders know about the two Worlds, the Physical World and the Spiritual World. Many times, before we pass to the Spirit World, our relatives, who have gone there before us, will come for us and they will help us. The Spirit World, the Elders say, is a good, happy, and harmonious place. When we die, it means we have only entered another world. We will all see one another again.–Elders Meditations | More…

In AA it doesn’t matter who is right — only who is left! –Bandon, Ore., May 1998/”Anything and Everything Except Sobriety,”/Voices of Long-Term Sobriety/Grapevine

If you respect something, it will respect you back. The Indian ancestors always showed great respect for the Earth. That’s why the Earth is so respectful to Indians today. We know the Earth holds our ancestors. –Elders Meditations | More…

In striving to please everyone, you end up pleasing no one. Striving to be a people-pleaser can make you feel as if what you are doing is never right, and you lose your ability to make your own decision. –Morning Light/Amy E. Dean | More…

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Sometimes we look at something close up and it appears to be ugly. Are we focused on something ugly about ourselves, or are we looking at ourselves as a whole? We all have purpose, and we are all beautiful. –Elders Meditations | More…

In the first six months of my own sobriety, I worked hard with many alcoholics. Not a one responded. Yet this work kept me sober. –Bill W., January 1958/”The Next Frontier: Emotional Sobriety,”/The Language of the Heart

Part of the magic of AA is that the Fellowship, like the loving God who presides over us all, never gives up hope for the suffering alcoholic. –West Palm Beach, Florida, September 1986|”The Kid Who Came In from the Cold,”/In Our Own Words/Grapevine

The base of all things is love, respect. The greatest weapon of any Spiritual Warrior is love. Love loves love. Any human who is loving will be guaranteed respect. Respect loves love. We need to love and respect ourselves. –Elders Meditations/White Bison 14/04 | More…

We are, in fact, on a journey and have much to learn. The journey is the process of enlightenment for which we all have gathered. All of our acquaintances share destinies overlapping our own. There is security in knowing that our journeys are necessary and right for us. –The Promise of a New Day/Karen Casey & Martha Vanceburg | More…

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I’ve found a life I never knew existed. I’m so overwhelmed with gratitude that there’s no room for a bad day. –Costa Mesa, California, December 1994/”He Gave Me the Shirt Off His Back,”/Grapevine

We must come back to the culture because this is where His laws are. If we don’t follow these laws, we will be unhappy. We must follow what the Great Spirit says we must do. –Elders Meditations | More…

We can think of happiness as contentment and satisfaction. Both of these states of mind seem to come to us when we least strive for them. –Just For Today | More…

A tree stripped of its branches will die unless new branches can be grafted onto its trunk. To grow or even to survive, we must open our minds and allow new ideas to be grafted onto our lives. –Just For Today | More…

Through our new awareness, we no longer feel isolated from the rest of the human race. When our individual contribution is combined with others, we become an essential part of a grand design.  We are connected at last. –Just For Today | More…

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The inner satisfaction we seek can be found in doing the right things for the right reasons. We break the people-pleasing cycle when we stop acting merely to gain others’ approval and start acting on our Higher Power’s will for us. –Just For Today | More…

Once we have uncovered our fear, we are able to move beyond it. That vision is the essence of our own best, brightest dreams for ourselves. –Just For Today | More…

The fellowship can be a mirror to reflect back to us a more accurate image of who we are. The fellowship always has more to offer us, as long as we keep coming back. –Just For Today | More…

Our spiritual and emotional growth in A.A. does not depend so deeply upon success as it does upon our failures and setbacks. A relapse can provide a positive experience toward abstinence and a lifetime of recovery. A relapse brings truth to what we hear repeatedly in meetings – “Don’t take that first drink!”  It reinforces the belief in the progressive nature of the disease, and the need for humility in our spiritual program. Simple truths come in complicated ways to me when I become ego driven. –Daily Reflections | More…

Have you  looked up the meaning of RIGOROUS, as in rigorous honesty? So how is your program?  Is it?……. meticulous, punctilious, conscientious, careful, diligent, attentive, ultra-careful, scrupulous, painstaking, exact, precise, accurate, correct, thorough, studious, exhaustive, mathematical, detailed, perfectionist, methodical, particular, religious, strict; fussy; fastidious; hair-splitting; finicky; finical; demanding; exacting; pedantic; relentless; unsparing; uncompromising; –Suggested by Charley Brockwell, AA #6
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The alcoholic at certain times has no effective mental defence against the first drink.
His defence must come from a Higher Power. –Big Book p.43 |

Where alcohol has been involved, we have been strangely insane. Alcoholism required me to drink, whether I wanted to or not. Insanity dominated my life. –Daily Reflections | More…

This sober world is a pleasant place for an alcoholic to live in.
Our need is God’s opportunity. First we must recognize our need. –24Hours | More…


Someone will be helped today by our kindness. The real gift, though,
is to ourselves. We are healed in our healing of others.  –Karen Casey |More…

When I am compulsive about something, I ‘have to’ have it or see that it is done.
I cannot adjust the world to me; I can adjust myself to what is, to reality. –Food For Thought

I’m sick and tired of being sick and tired.
Wow, you mean I don’t have to be sick and tired anymore? –One Day At A Time | More…

Anger and resentment are masks for fear.
Worrying is praying for things you don’t want.






Responsibility: Your response to God’s ability.

When the spiritual malady is overcome, we straighten out mentally and physically –Big Book p.64 | More…

I must keep balance by keeping spiritual things at the center of my life. Then I will be at peace amid the distractions of everyday living. 24Hours |More…


Seasoned AA members are trained by their experience to detect and defuse false causes to drink. “There are excuses but never good reasons for drinking,” they say.  –Walk In Dry Places | More…

As an alcoholic I existed in life but I didn’t live: I was numbered amongst the “walking dead”. Today I make a spiritual choice that avoids alcohol. Today I am alive. –Father Leo | More…

Living Only those who dare, truly live. Having a sponsor–and being one–helps. Taking a Fifth and working the Twelfth helps. Going to meetings and sharing helps. We must not miss out on what life offers. We can risk feeling it all, hearing it all, seeing it all. –Karen Casey | More…

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Any fool can know.
The point is to understand. –Albert Einstein



Self-pity is one of the most unhappy and consuming defects that we know.
It is a maudlin form of martyrdom, which we can ill afford. — Daily Reflections

Most of us thought good character was desirable. Seldom did we look at character-building as something desirable in itself. –As Bill Sees It p.103

Work is good for the heart. Work is good for our minds. We’ll never  be
bored if we ask ourselves, “How can I make this world a better place? –Keep It Simple


The key to addiction is to be found in the obsessive and compulsive behavior patterns
that stop us from reaching our full potential as human beings. –Father Leo

In order to be a spiritual person we must
free ourselves from compulsive attitudes. –Father Leo

Psychic change
The last thing we expected was an awakening of the spirit. We don’t have to spend the rest of our lives in a spiritual coma. We may not like to get up in the morning but, once out of bed, we’re almost always glad we did. | More…

Friday the 13th
The fear of Friday the 13th is also called friggatriskaidekaphobia or paraskevidekatriaphobia. – Now say that 10 times really fast!

Friggatriskaidekaphobia comes from Frigg, the Norse goddess of wisdom after whom Friday is named, and the Greek words triskaideka, meaning 13, and phobia, meaning fear.

What are the top superstitions
Avoid walking under a ladder
Touching wood
Blessing someone when they’ve sneezed
Crossing your fingers
Picking up a penny
Breaking a wishbone and making a wish
Throwing salt over your shoulder because you spilled it
Avoiding opening an umbrella inside
Avoiding putting new shoes on the table
Avoiding telling anyone your birthday wish when blowing out your candles
Saluting a magpie
Avoiding passing someone on the stairs
Ensuring you have ‘something old, something new, something borrowed and something blue, borrowed, something blue on yours or a friend’s wedding day
Worrying about Friday 13th approaching
Avoiding the number 13
Avoiding walking over three drains
Avoiding the number 666
Avoiding seeing the bride in their wedding dress before their wedding day
Avoiding walking over a crack
Avoiding eating cheese before bed
Avoiding letting a black cat cross your path
Having your husband carry you over the threshold of your new home
Avoiding stepping on a grate
Ensuring the bride (yourself or a friend) has not worn her complete wedding clothes before the day
Avoiding lighting three cigarettes with one match
Pushing a spoon through the bottom of an empty eggshell after finishing it
Carrying a ‘lucky rabbit’s foot’ around with you
Cutting off both ends of the loaf of bread
Making sure you haven’t left a white tablecloth on a table overnight
Never giving gloves as a present



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The alcoholic at certain times has no effective mental defence against the first drink.
His defence must come from a Higher Power. –Big Book p.43 | More…

Where alcohol has been involved, we have been strangely insane. Alcoholism required me to drink, whether I wanted to or not. Insanity dominated my life. –Daily Reflections | More…

This sober world is a pleasant place for an alcoholic to live in.
Our need is God’s opportunity. First we must recognize our need. –24Hours | More…


Someone will be helped today by our kindness. The real gift, though,
is to ourselves. We are healed in our healing of others.  –Karen Casey |More…

When I am compulsive about something, I ‘have to’ have it or see that it is done.
I cannot adjust the world to me; I can adjust myself to what is, to reality. –Food For Thought

I’m sick and tired of being sick and tired.
Wow, you mean I don’t have to be sick and tired anymore? –One Day At A Time | More…

Anger and resentment are masks for fear.
Worrying is praying for things you don’t want.


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If you woke up breathing,
Congratulations! You have another chance!

To see how erratic emotions victimized us often took a long time. We had to drop the word “blame” from our speech and thought. —Daily Reflections

I must learn to accept self-discipline. I must try never to yield one point that I have already won. –24Hours | More…

You should always help others for no reason other than your own benefit. In helping others, we are only passing on the good that has come to us. —Walk In Dry Places/Mel B.


When you are with others, be with them wholeheartedly. But when you are by yourself, be alone with God. –One Day At A Time | More…

Every day, especially this one facing us, our choices and decisions will be many. There is only one solution to any problem, and that’s the one our higher power guides us to. –Karen Casey

Suit up, Show up, Sit up, and Speak up!
When your knees knock, kneel on them. –Unknown
Those who are awake live in a state of constant amazement. –Buddha
Going to meetings is like taking aspirin before a headache –Wisdom of the Rooms


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Xanax and Grapefruit a bad mix


Definition of Xanax; an anti-anxiety medication
Synonyms of Xanax; alprazolam,  zan, anna nicole smith, planks, xaney, and zans.

These notes are from recovery in AA and/or related 12 step programs.
Readers are encouraged to click external links for more detail.
We hope you find them helpful.
Love in fellowship.

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Xanax (alprazolam) is an anti-anxiety medication in the benzodiazepine family, the same family that includes diazepam (Valium), clonazepam (Klonopin), lorazepam (Ativan), flurazepam (Dalmane), and others.

Xanax (alprazolam) is the single most prescribed psychiatric medication in the U.S. It is primarily used to treat anxiety and panic disorders.

Xanax works by increasing the amount of the neurotransmitter GABA in the brain to promote calmness and a relaxed feeling. In certain individuals, the body handles Xanax differently, these include people with alcoholism | More…

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Zen Garden


Definition of Zen: Japanese school of Mahayana Buddhism emphasizing the value of meditation and intuition
Synonyms of Zen: calm, hushed, peaceful, placid, restful, serene, still, stilly, tranquil, quiet, etc.

These notes are from recovery in AA and/or related 12 step programs.
Readers are encouraged to click external links for more detail.
We hope you find them helpful.
Love in fellowship.

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Passions grow from the will. The will grows from thought and imagination:

When both are calmed, There is neither sensualism nor transmigration. –Sutra of Forty Two Chapters

I have just three things to teach: Simplicity, patience, compassion. These three are your greatest treasures.

Simple in actions and in thoughts, you return to the source of being.

Patient with both friends and enemies, you accord with the way things are.

Compassionate toward yourself, you reconcile all beings in the world. -– Lao Tzu

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The mountain stones were rough, the path narrow. Bats flew in the twilight when I reached the temple.

I climbed to the hall and sat on the steps, where the fresh rain had washed the great palm leaves and sleek gardenias.

The monk said there were fine Buddhas painted on the old walls:

He took a lamp to show me some of them. He spread the bed, dusted the mats,

And set out rice for me: It was coarse but satisfied my hunger. And not an insect murmured.

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Late at night it was quiet,

As the clear moon came over the mountains, and entered my door

I left at dawn, alone, and lost my way, up and down the twisting mountains in the mist where the red hills glittered in the jade green brooks.

I saw pines and oaks full ten spans around and my bare feet in swift water stepped over rocks

Where the water boiled and the wind tore my clothes. A man could make himself happy here.

Why should I bridle myself in crowded towns? O my own few disciples:

What if I grew old here and never returned? — Han Yu

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If you desire to attain enlightenment, you should steadily walk the Way with a resolute heart, with courage, and be fearless in whatever environment you many happen to be.

Destroy every evil influence that you may come across; for thus you shall reach the goal. — Daily Zen/Sutra of Forty Two Chapters

When the mind is properly adjusted
And quietly applied the Way is attainable;

But when you are too fervently bent on it, your body grows tired;
When your body is tired, your spirit becomes weary.

When your spirit is weary, your discipline will relax, and with relaxation of discipline, there follows many distractions. –Daily Zen/Sutra of Forty Two Chapters

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Calming the Mind
Too much knowledge leads to over activity; Better to calm the mind.

The more you consider, the greater the loss;
Better to unify the mind. – Shih Wang Ming (6th c)

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