Definition of Self-centered:
Preoccupied with oneself and one’s affairs.

Synonyms for Self-centered:

Egotistical, self-obsessed, introverted, selfish, vain, arrogance, assurance, boastfulness, boasting, bragging, conceit, conceitedness, egocentricity, ego-centrism, egomania, egotism, gasconaded, haughtiness, insolence, megalomania, narcissism, ostentation, overconfidence, presumption, pride, self-absorption, self-admiration, self-confidence, self-importance, self-interest, self-involvement, self-love, self-possession, self-regard, self-worship, selfishness, superiority, swell headedness, vainglory, vanity, vaunting

These notes are from recovery in AA and/or related 12 step programs. Readers are encouraged to click external links for more detail. We hope you find them helpful.

Love in fellowship.

All human beings struggle with self-contentedness. The variety of people we encounter in our day and the quality of our relations with them determines, to a great extent, the
quality of our very lives. We want to work the Eighth Step. –Just for Today | More…

The world is one, a while, and we are a part of it. But sometimes, we are so enmeshed in ourselves, in the details of our lives, in the unfair limitations placed upon us — that we become closed and forget the rest of the world. We see nothing else.  We hear nothing else. –One More Day |  More…

You can have a Self-centered life and suffer the consequences, or, You can have a God-centered life and suffer the consequences –Chuck C. | More…

The selfishness we need for recovery is a devotion to self-improvement, rather than the selfish indulgence that made us sick. –Walk In Dry Places/Mel B. | More…

Self-importance is our greatest enemy.
What weakens us is feeling offended by the deeds and misdeeds of our fellowmen. Our self-importance requires that we spend most of our lives offended by someone. –Carlos Castaneda | More…

Neither could we reduce our self-centeredness much by wishing or trying on our own power. We had to have God’s help. –Big Book p.62 | More…

Selfishness–self-contentedness! That, we think, is the root of our troubles. Driven by a hundred forms of fear, self-delusion, self-seeking, and self-pity, we step on the toes of our fellows and they retaliate. So our troubles, we think, are basically of our own making. –As Bill Sees It | More… (p.272)

The trouble is that we are self-centered, and no effort of the self can remove the self from the centre of its own endeavour. The harder we worked to provide our own cures, to control others in our lives, or to control ourselves, the more we fixed our attention upon ourselves.

We could not see that the answers we were using were actually part of the problem, not the solution. We can’t lift ourselves out of our self-contentedness. We can only turn it over to our Higher Power and allow ourselves to be released. –Touchstones | More…

All human beings struggle with self-contentedness. We want to be genuine examples of who we are. –Just For Today | More…

What is self-centeredness? It is our belief that the world revolves around us. Our wishes, our demands are the only ones worth consideration. Our self-centered minds believe they are capable of getting everything they want if only they would be left to their own devices. Self-centeredness assumes total self-sufficiency. = We say that self-centeredness is the spiritual part of our disease because the self-centered mind cannot conceive of anything greater or more important than itself. But there is a spiritual solution to our spiritual malady: the Twelve Steps; The steps lead us away from self-centeredness and toward God-centeredness. –Just For Today | More…

Recovery can help each of us move beyond the boundaries of our own ego. Trusting that our lives are in the loving care of God, however we understand God, relieves us of the need for self-centeredness. –Each Day a New Beginning | More….

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