Definition of Gossip: casual unconstrained conversation or reports about other people, typically involving details which are not confirmed as true.
Synonyms of Gossip: tittle-tattle, rumour(s), whispers, stories, tales, titbits; idle talk, scandal, hearsay, mud-slinging, etc.
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Love in fellowship.
We can do two things to help keep the trust in our groups, and in the rest of our lives too.
First, don’t gossip. Second, don’t listen to gossip about others. –Keep It Simple | More…
Whoever gossips to you will gossip about you. –Spanish proverb
As long as a man stands in his own way, everything seems to be in his way. –Ralph Waldo Emerson | More…
We cannot live freely and happily if we practice gossip in any form. We cannot gossip and be completely trustworthy and reliable. –Walk In Dry Places | More…
Our search for real growth in sobriety should include willingness to part company with gossip. We cannot grow mentally and spiritually by reading about the misbehaviour and shortcomings of others. –Walk In Dry Places/Mel B | More…
The harm of gossip lies in what we do to ourselves when we engage in it. Gossip is the enemy of the growth we desire. –Mel B. | More…
Listening to gossip is gossip. The harm of gossip lies in what we do to ourselves when we engage in it. There is no way we can continue to have spiritual growth if we practice gossip, even as passive listeners.
Spiritual growth takes place within us, and it needs an environment completely free of any ill will. Gossip is the enemy of the growth we desire. –Walk In Dry Places. | More…
We may be unhappy when others gossip about us. If we withdraw from the fellowship and isolate ourselves to avoid gossip, we also rob ourselves of the love, friendship, and unparalleled experience with recovery that our fellow members have to offer.
A better way to deal with gossip is to simply accept the way things are and the way we are, and live our lives according to principles.
The more secure we become with our personal program, the decisions we make, and the guidance we receive from a loving God, the less the opinions of others will concern us. –Just For Today | More…
The things we say about other people tell a lot about us. As we work our program to see ourselves better, we begin to see other people more clearly too. We see their strong points and their weak points. But we can know these things without gossiping about them. –Keep It Simple | More…
Nowadays, if anyone talks of me so as to hurt, I first ask myself if there is any truth at all in what they say. If there is none, I try to remember that I too have had my periods of speaking bitterly of others.
Hurtful gossip is but a symptom of our remaining emotional illness; and consequently we must never be angry at the unreasonableness of sick people. –As Bill Sees It | More…(p.268)
To speak ill of others is a dishonest way of praising ourselves. –Will Durant
Sometimes we say bad things about others.
When we do this, it makes us look bad too.
Our friends worry what we might say about them behind their backs.
They’re afraid to trust us. We become known as gossips.
The things we say about other people tell a lot about us.
We are kind or unkind. We gossip or we don’t.
This doesn’t mean we have to say everyone is wonderful all the time. As we work our program to see ourselves better, we begin to see other people more clearly too.
We see their strong points and their weak points. But we can know these things without gossiping about them. –Keep It Simple | More…