DEFECTS

Definition of Defects:
a shortcoming, imperfection, or lack.
Synonyms of Defects:
flaw, imperfection, deficiency, inadequacy, shortcoming, limitation, etc.

These notes are from recovery in AA and related 12 step programs.
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Definitions used for inventory steps;

Self-centeredness: thinking of myself excessively and not giving due regard to others

Pride: worrying about what people think of us — what would they think of me if they knew? How could he do that to the great me?

Self-pity: feeling down about my own situation. This is usually the defect that we feel most directly. It’s the one that lets us know that we have a resentment — poor me! It is not possible to feel pride and self-pity without it being due to Self-centeredness.

After all, I can’t be feeling down about my situation (self-pity) if I am trying to think of others first; similarly, I can’t be worrying about how others view me (pride) if I am not thinking about myself. This is why these three come together, they “hunt in a pack”, as it were.

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Jealousy: resenting affection that is given to others — I am jealous of Fred because Mary fancies him and she doesn’t fancy me.

Envy: wanting what rightfully belongs to others, their possessions, their abilities — I am envious of Fred’s Mercedes and his good looks. (But in this case I am still jealous of him as well because Mary fancies him and not me.)

Dishonesty: the conventional use of not being honest (lying, cheating, stealing). There are additional meanings that are not a used in everyday language, but are used commonly in the fourth step — if I resent someone else for something that I have done myself it is dishonest (hypocrisy or self-delusion).

We can extend that further: even if I Hadn’t done what I had resented him for, then in almost every case we can say: “There but for the grace of God go I.” In other words, if the positions were reversed and I had been through everything that person had been through in life, that I would not do the same, we might refer to this as a sort of potential hypocrisy.

There are certain situations where this would not apply: we cannot ever put ourselves in God’s position. So, other things being equal, if we resented God we would not include dishonesty.

Selfishness: not being prepared to let others have some of what is mine (material goods, time). NB if we are just thinking of ourselves, that is self-centeredness and not selfishness.

Greed: when I have what I need yet I want more. Refers to material possessions.

Gluttony: greed for food and drink (including alcohol).

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Lust: a selfish desire for sex.

Arrogance: knowing better than my equals (not minding my own business, telling people who have not asked me and over whom I have no authority, what to do) or thinking I am the equal of my betters (not accepting the authority of those I should — parents, bosses at work, teachers when I am at school). Also making judgments on the morality (rights and wrongs) of people’s behavior is arrogance, because ultimately only God (or the judicial system) is entitled to do that.

Intolerance: not putting up qualities, in others that they cannot help — he is ugly; I don’t like her accent; I don’t like the English; I don’t like the working/middle/upper class; I don’t like his or her skin color/race/nationality. Intolerance is not used for when we don’t like someone’s behavior (see ‘arrogance’).

Impatience: I am fed up with waiting (bus queues, she hasn’t returned my telephone call yet.)

Sloth: laziness, procrastination | More…

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We succeed in enterprises which demand the positive qualities we possess, wrote de Tocqueville, but we excel in those which can also make use of our defects.

We learn in The Program that our defects do have value—to the extent that we use them as the starting point for change and the pathway to better things. –A Day At A Time | More…

Through uncovering and admitting my character defects, I realized that I was no different than the people I was so afraid of. I understood that we were all suffering and that I didn’t need to disguise my authentic self. -Voices of Long-Term Sobriety/Grapevine.

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