Definition of Balance:
An even distribution of weight enabling someone or something to remain upright.

of Balance:
Stability, equilibrium, steadiness, sound-footing, etc

These notes are from recovery in AA and/or related 12 step programs.
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We hope you find them helpful.

Love in fellowship.


Age is a great leveller!
I am on a journey to God and this involves many stages of experience.

These experiences will take me into a period of life called “old age”.
Many people fear this period of life because it is connected with poor health, helplessness and death.

The “uncertainty” of death brings with it a lack of control!
Today I realize that we all have similar fears and concerns.

Mystery brings with it a sense of awe!
Today I have a loving God. –Father Leo | More…


We can learn to give to others while taking responsibility for ourselves. We can learn to take care of our feelings, as well as our physical, mental, and spiritual needs.

We can nurture the quiet confidence of owning our power as equals in our relationships with others. The goal of recovery is balance, but sometimes we get there by going to extremes. –The Language of Letting Go/Melody Beatty | More…

I see “humility for today” as a safe and secure stance midway between violent emotional extremes. It is a quiet place where I can keep enough perspective and enough balance to take my next small step up the clearly marked road that points toward eternal values. –As Bill Sees It | More… (p.199)

Occasionally a person who has chronic pain spends far too much time on a quest to cure or solve the pain. There’s no reason to make our days miserable with unrealistic goals.

Learning to live the best we can with the pain and inconvenience of illness is the only way to make minor miseries out of major ones. –Day By Day | More…


‘What goes around, comes around,’ is a saying often used to suggest that certain arrogant, unprincipled people will eventually receive their comeuppance. It conveys the idea that there’s a hidden justice at work in human affairs that assures all injustice will eventually be punished.

But if it works to punish, this hidden justice also rewards right actions, and this is more important in our working of the program. If we act from good motives, we’ll always find that our work is rewarded in some way.

No alcoholic who performs a service in the fellowship goes unrewarded. Quite often the reward is simply a personal sense of well-being and growth in character, but these may be more important than money or recognition. Justice is one of the cardinal virtues–a Godlike attribute that human beings strive to understand. Believing in justice is believing in the Hidden Power that orders justice in all things. –Walk In Dry Places | More…

We will want the good that is in us all, even in the worst of us, to flower and to grow. Most certainly we shall need bracing air and an abundance of food. But first of all we shall want sunlight; nothing much can grow in the dark. Meditation is our step out into the sun. –12 & 12 | More… (p.98)


For many years I saw the differences and not the similarities. Then I heard from another recovering alcoholic not only “my story” but also my feelings.

I belonged. I was with people who knew my loneliness, isolation, confusion, guilt and despair. I had come home to live amongst my people. –Father Leo

We seek balance in our lives.
This is no easy lesson to learn.

We can find ways to have more balance in our lives. Spiritual vitality grows when we make room in our day for light-hearted play as well as the serious tasks.  –Touchstones | More…

We develop an ability to let others feel their feelings; we have no need to judge them.  And we fully embrace our own personal range of emotions. –Just For Today | More…


The Elders have taught us to balance our lives emotionally, mentally, physically and spiritually. If I am out of control emotionally, I get angry, doubtful or erratic, I am out of balance.

If I trigger bad mental pictures of my brothers and sisters, I am out of balance. If I get too hungry, angry, lonely, or tired, I am out of balance physically.

If I don’t pray and talk to the Creator daily, I am out of balance spiritually. To be centered, I must be in balance.

The Creator talks to me in the quiet and still place. So if I get angry, what I should do first is to pause and get still so I can hear the guidance of the Grandfathers. –Elders Meditations | More…

Work is good for the heart. Work is good for our minds. We’ll never be bored if we ask ourselves, “How can I make this world a better place? –Keep It Simple | More…


Abstinence does not guarantee that we will always be on an even keel emotionally. We continue to have ups and downs, and often we feel emotional distress even more keenly when we are no longer using alcohol.

Part of our program involves the striving for balance and perspective. Experience teaches us not to get carried away by either elation or depression.

These are moods, which will not last, and we prefer to base our actions on the rational decisions, which we make in times of quiet reflection. Ideally, we will contact a program friend or sponsor so that we may strengthen each other and learn not to be overwhelmed by mood swings. –Food For Thought | More…

Made direct amends to such people wherever possible,. . . . . Some people are untraceable, and direct amends to them are not possible.

The only amends I can make to those untraceable individuals, the only “changes for the better” I can offer, are indirect amends made to other people, whose paths briefly cross mine. Courtesy and kindness, regularly practiced, help me to live in emotional balance, at peace with myself.  –Daily Reflections | More…


Work is good for the heart. Work is good for our minds. We’ll never be bored if we ask ourselves, “How can I make this world a better place? –Keep It Simple | More…

Recovery is an individual process that necessitates making mistakes, struggling through problems, and facing tough issues. We do not need to go to the other extreme; tolerating anything people throw our way. When we stop expecting ourselves to be perfect, we’ll discover the beauty in ourselves. –The Language of Letting Go/Melody Beattie | More…

Emotional balance comes with practice in prayer and meditation. Eventually, our skills in maintaining near-balance get better, and the wild up-and-down emotional swings we used to experience begin to settle.  One thing to remember is that nobody can really “OD” on AA. If a person is attending lots of meetings, this schedule may eventually be cut back to allow time for other activities.

It’s better, especially in early recovery, to attend too many meetings than too few. Everyone needs a balanced life, but that cannot happen without secure recovery.

Meetings are may best way of staying active in the fellowship. –Walk In Dry Places/Mel B. | More…


Now that we have an adult’s perspective, one would think that adjusting to new things or getting rid of bad habits would become easier. No so!  Adjusting to change is not easy, particularly when it involves our health.

One of the most difficult problems is maintaining a balance between dealing with the chronic problem and wanting to live without it.  We learn, despite our resistance to change, that we can have an illness and can adjust — we can remain strong and happy. –One More Day | More…

The Elders say, lead a simple life. There are some things that make life complicated such as needing control, Needing power or being resentful or angry.

These things make complications happen. We need to walk in balance in every area of our lives. –Elders | More…


Sometimes, our legitimate needs and wants run amuck. Identify what you want. Then let it go. And ask God what your lesson is. –More Language Of Letting Go | More…

For all my good intentions, there are days when things go wrong or I fall into old habits. When things are not going well, when I’m grumpy or mad, I’ll realize that I’ve not been paying attention to my soul and I’ve not been following my best routine. –Robert Fulghum




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